A funny thing about dating...Many years ago in College, a lady approached me and invited me to a party. She was a friend of my brother in law's friend and he had introduced me to them a few weeks earlier.
I agreed to the invite. The address she gave me was totally wrong and I wound up at the top of a hill on a cow path with no way down except backing the car down to the bottom.
Two days later her friend caught up with me and explained this lady's mistake. We started dating, married and have been togheter for 54 years, unfortunately for her. I've been a handful all 54 of them.
Summer 2020 before id met my gf I asked out another student from my cohort. We had just gone on a hike the week before and possibly was the first time we were able to see another person after lockdown lifted a little. We had also had a group friend dinner at her place right before lockdown had started.
She was surprised and apologized if she had led me on but the truth was the potential crush had only popped into my head that week and I immediately acted on it. There was no pressure at all and I wasn't bothered that she wasn't interested. Like you I was just looking to build on any existing friendships.
I think a lot of people aren't used to that nonchalant forwardness or dating to them means sex or marriage or some sort of future. Nope, I was just thinking one step at a time. It's a bit unfortunate we stopped talking after that but tbf I haven't kept in touch with any of the masters students from that cohort so that's just life.
But hey the same strategy worked with my girlfriend and we've been together 3.5 years now. We went on a hike that October and a month later I asked her out. Although that time I was much more nervous! 😂
A funny thing about dating...Many years ago in College, a lady approached me and invited me to a party. She was a friend of my brother in law's friend and he had introduced me to them a few weeks earlier.
I agreed to the invite. The address she gave me was totally wrong and I wound up at the top of a hill on a cow path with no way down except backing the car down to the bottom.
Two days later her friend caught up with me and explained this lady's mistake. We started dating, married and have been togheter for 54 years, unfortunately for her. I've been a handful all 54 of them.
You just opened the memory
Joe
Love it!!
Summer 2020 before id met my gf I asked out another student from my cohort. We had just gone on a hike the week before and possibly was the first time we were able to see another person after lockdown lifted a little. We had also had a group friend dinner at her place right before lockdown had started.
She was surprised and apologized if she had led me on but the truth was the potential crush had only popped into my head that week and I immediately acted on it. There was no pressure at all and I wasn't bothered that she wasn't interested. Like you I was just looking to build on any existing friendships.
I think a lot of people aren't used to that nonchalant forwardness or dating to them means sex or marriage or some sort of future. Nope, I was just thinking one step at a time. It's a bit unfortunate we stopped talking after that but tbf I haven't kept in touch with any of the masters students from that cohort so that's just life.
But hey the same strategy worked with my girlfriend and we've been together 3.5 years now. We went on a hike that October and a month later I asked her out. Although that time I was much more nervous! 😂
Love it!! I agree with you completely. Hike is a great first date or pre-date or non-date as friends.